Kiva Talty

When do you feel the most beautiful? 

When I’m all dolled up, of course! Probably when I wear a good fitting dress, something that’s comfortable or flattering, I feel the most beautiful. But I think most girls feel that, when they have the opportunity to show off their beauty with a big event like a dance or such.

What do you think is the most important thing for young girls to know about their bodies as they grow older? 

Your body is yours. Don’t ever, and I mean this, EVER, let someone tell you what to do with your body. Growing up I had a constant reminder from someone that maybe I should be a little more active, maybe I shouldn’t wear that dress or that top, or maybe I should lay off the sweets. All it did was make me retaliate externally, but internally I was dissecting myself in front of the mirror, pinching and stretching my waist and thighs. It took me almost 16 years to realize that regardless of what other people say, this body belongs to me, and I decide how I treat it.

What is a quote or saying that makes you feel great about yourself?

“Fame is a vapor, popularity an accident, and riches take wings. Only one thing endures, and that is character.” -Horace Greeley

How do you feel the media’s portrayal of women’s bodies influences women’s body image?

Drastically, more than we let on. We might pick up a magazine in the checkout line at the grocery store, and put it down without another thought, but I think for a moment we might think to ourselves, “Wow, I wish I had that bone structure” or “Her complexion is way better than mine” or even “How do I get those breasts?” We take those thoughts with us and they hang around, that’s for sure. Since the media is everywhere we look now, it’s hard to escape that and disregard those wild representations. 



        

Elizabeth Nourse


What is a personal experience with your own body image that you would like to share?

When I was in high school, I remember occasionally looking at myself in the mirror and liking what I saw in the reflection. I was finally starting to develop into a woman, and I had certain features that I was proud of. But something within me would immediately suppress those thoughts, and I would revert back to perfecting myself. That was the norm. It was not normal for a girl to think she was pretty. It is normal, however, for girls to think that they are not enough. Our society has completely confused humility with self-denial. If a girl admits that she is physically beautiful, she is judged as narcissistic or self-obsessed. I say we break that status quo. If I could go back in time to when I was 15 or 16, I would compliment myself like crazy. Knowing this has made me realize that I need to start complimenting myself in the present. We truly can be our own worst enemy and our biggest bully. But we can also be our biggest cheerleader. It just takes breaking the status quo and making self-love the new normal.

What do you think is the most important thing for young girls to know about their bodies as they grow older?

Perfection does not exist. Although the mainstream media nips and tucks women to their idea of perfection, those women are not real. You are real. Nothing you have will ever be enough to reach society’s ideal. Imagine this: You spend your whole life dieting, tanning, and perfecting yourself. One morning, you wake up and look in the bathroom mirror. You are finally her. You are finally the ideal woman. You have the tan, toned, 36-24-36 body. Your hair is long and sleek. Your teeth are as white as the snow. Not one wrinkle traces your face. You are perfect. Who is perfect? You. But wait, who are you? Beyond the perfect appearance, who is this woman staring back at you in the mirror? In the fight to achieve exactly who this society wanted you to be, you lost that passion, that spark, that fire that you used to have. You ask yourself, “Who am I… really?” and you are at a loss for words. Do not waste away your life trying to become that perfect woman because you are not her. You will never be her. She does not exist. But you do. You are a somebody. Spend your life trying to figure out who this beautifully unique “somebody” is, so that one day you can look at yourself in the mirror and recognize the fiery spirit that smiles back at you.

What is a quote or saying that makes you feel great about yourself?

“She was becoming herself and daily casting aside that fictitious self which we assume like a garment with which to appear before the world.” –Kate Chopin, “The Awakening”
While I was forced to read this book for high school English and did not particularly like the story (especially the ending…), this quote really stood out to me. This is the woman whom I wish to be. I want to spend every day of my life challenging myself and learning more and more about who I am. Who the world wants me to be is irrelevant. The further I can get from the standards of others, the closer I am to finding myself.

What’s one way that you celebrate your body every day?

I celebrate my body every day through exercise. I never thought I would ever say those words. I used to hate exercise with a passion, but once I got into better shape and my body began to grow used to working out, going to the gym became more of a hobby than a chore. I listen to some upbeat classical, jazz, country, or pop hits (depending on my mood), hop on a cardio machine or grab some dumbbells, and spend an hour or 2 exercising the body God gave me. I have noticed that I feel so much better on a daily basis, I have so much more strength, and I have lots of energy. “Treating myself” doesn’t just have to mean grabbing some froyo or taking a bubble bath. It can also mean taking an hour out of my day to continue strengthening the body that I was given.

How do you feel the media’s portrayal of women’s bodies influences women’s body image?


Our bodies are mere tools that are meant to aid us in life. The media, however, portrays a woman’s body as her defining quality. In Hollywood, it’s all about her body measurements, her skin color, her hair color, her makeup, her clothes, her shoes, and her hairstyle. TV and radio personalities talk about this stuff for hours on the air, for women across the nation to see and hear. How we should look in a bikini is suddenly our iPhone wallpaper. How much we should weigh is suddenly our New Year’s Resolution. It becomes all women think about because the media tells us that it is all that we are. We are our bodies. Nothing more. This needs to change. Who we are is truly defined by what we do. Our bodies are just a convenient tool we use to do whatever it is we choose to do. Considering that your body is just a device to aid you in your life journey, the size dress that it fits into or how tan it is means absolutely nothing in the grand scheme of why you are here on this planet. We need to keep our bodies healthy so that they can aid us in our travels. But that’s all that we as women should have to worry about when it comes to our body image.

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